May 8, 2019
“Love is the most powerful healing energy. Everything you do with love spreads healing. So, feel it, be it, and spread it” – Abhishek Kumar
I’m not really sure how to begin this post… I’m writing this 100% on the fly, simply because it’s been on my heart and I want to be raw and authentic with you. Recently, I’ve become acutely aware of how harsh people, including myself, are towards each other. Sometimes, I’m astounded by what comes into my head and out of my mouth and by how quickly others jump right on the hate train.
Why are so many people quick to judge, gossip and compete with each other? Why does tearing someone else down deliver a sense of satisfaction? WHY IS THAT EVEN A THING?? I see it in myself, at work, within my family, on the news and sometimes in public (when I’m people watching, its fine lol). I’m not saying you should never have a negative thought or speak one negative word about another person, but at some point, we’ve got to reel it back in. I believe that we all have chains. The need to gossip, to be sarcastic, to one up everyone, to point out someone’s flaws… those are our chains, friends. And I’m pretty sure, if we dig deep, a lot of us are convinced that it’s impossible to live without one or two of those tendencies. Our chains almost become a part of who we are, a sense of comfort. So much so that some of us may not even know they’re there. There have been several times that I’ve heard a podcast or read a blog post, challenging people to stop gossiping. I would think, “ya that sounds good, but you’re telling me that every time someone starts to gossip, I should just walk away or, even worse, tell them I don’t want to talk about that??”. I truly believed that I couldn’t be a human and not gossip.
Those are my chains.
Lately though, I’ve become increasingly bothered by my own selfishness, ego and contempt (hence the reason I’m writing this). Like, to the point that I just wanted to cry for myself and for humanity. I had an epiphany, though, that we don’t need to sulk because this is how we’re wired. Instead, we need to rise up and integrate practices into our lives that subtly begin to override our wiring. And how the heck do we do this?
By the practice of spreading love. I’ve decided that we’re all simultaneously amazing and incredibly annoying and the sooner we accept that that’s not about to change, the sooner we can be more intentional about choosing love over hate, silence over gossip, acceptance over judgement and the act of lifting up instead of tearing down.
If you have chains, its ok. So do I and love will set us free. And by the way, I am setting an intention to gossip less and if you’d like to do the same please feel welcome to reach out to me for any advice or support you need! We’re all on team people and in this crazy thing called life together! Lots of love!!
xoxo
Amber
